We stood in the warm Southern California night under suburban streetlights: Myself and a bespectacled entertainment writer/director with a boyish face, whom I met on Tinder.
Dinner had started off strong, with talk of sci-fi over salads, but quickly unraveled around issues of life goals and values.
But our understanding of how the fear of commitment for some people can be paralyzing has increased.
And while you won’t find “commitment phobia” in any diagnostic manual, it is a very real experience of anxiety and fear.
Here’s the lowdown on commitment phobia and relationship anxiety.
People who have commitment issues, commitment phobia or relationship anxiety (I’ll use these terms interchangeably) generally have a serious problem in staying in a relationship for the long-term.
People with a commitment phobia long and want a long-term connection with another person, but their overwhelming anxiety prevents them from staying in any relationship for too long.
They come as naturally to life as breathing or making a meal. In fact, they present such a challenge to the individual, that a person can be said to have relationship anxiety, a fear of relationships, or suffer from “.”Commitment issues in relationships are nothing new.
“I’m only good for getting drunk and having sex,” he said.
I’m a single 32-year-old—young enough to be considered a “millennial” by some, but old enough that my Facebook feed overflows with announcements of marriages and babies.
In relationships they create great confusion, havoc, pain, and anguish as their behaviors are often insensitive, unpredictable and bizarre.
These types of men can make women who are saints turn into mad women, as they play games with their minds and their hearts.