So here are six lessons I've learned in six months of marriage: Sexual happiness is an attitude: a healthy, uninhibited way of thinking about sex that gives you the courage to be truly yourself sexually.There are many light bulb moments that bring us to this blissful state - which is why the following list is by no means exhaustive.Alcohol should be introduced into the relationship slowly, but if a drink or two takes the edge off, and wine adds romance it's fine. But the one thing that should never happen is excessive application: too much, too many colors, or if it's just a botched attempt at a good makeup technique. You can't get away from it -- dating and sex are inextricably interlinked. It's nice to hear nothing but your lover's breath against the backdrop of the evening or early morning. It's peaceful to lie in someone's arms in the dark with great music or even the low buzz of the TV (although that tends to distract me) in the background.Whether it's someone you're meeting online or it's someone your friends know, aim to drop the things you know about them and start fresh.Don't ask your friends to tell you everything they can because you can end up with a tainted view of what to expect.
I do not disclose all things about myself because I have a lot of layers and I want you to earn the depths of me.
When I hear about a girl's man, I'm assuming we probably shouldn't be on that date period.
Luckily none of these scenarios actually happened and instead I was pleasantly surprised at the amount of women (and men) who took the time to write, speak or message me in support and share their own version of similar problems.
Clearly no-one heads to a date hoping that it will go badly.
It's also very unlikely that in the moment tumble weed is spiraling past you, you're thinking to yourself, "what a blessing this moment is! With a little space for reflection, often these dire, awkward moments can teach us something.