The bad news is they are also scared, and they push real intimacy or commitment away.
The good news is that they, like us, usually really do want true love, and down deep they realize that they’d be happier, more content and more sexually satisfied if they had a good relationship.
But when should you stick around, and when should you run out the door?
Here are seven mind games guys play and how to deal.
This is true when you're dating or when you're married 10 years.
You do not want to advertise a person with a great life who isn't ever going to be a burden or a weepy "you never pay attention to me" girlfriend and then give it all up for a relationship. It is hard in the early going to figure out if someone is going to be a good and solid partner because usually you're not going to go to your new boyfriend with a crisis and if you do, new boyfriend will usually respond the way new boyfriends do.
You had a fantastic time on your date—and he did, too. “You may never know for sure what's up with him,” says Marla Martenson, a matchmaker, author and motivational speaker.
At least, that’s what you thought until he suddenly dropped off the face of the planet. “It could be that he is seeing multiple girls, or he is just not that into you. Get out there and date like a guy.” If he still hasn’t responded to your texts after a week, stop dwelling on that dude and move on.
If only it was solely used for those reasons, then the world would be a much better place.
How could he disappear after he was so totally into me? The Value of Understanding Men’s Deadly Dating Patterns"You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly." ~Sam Keen In the just released paperback version of Love in 90 Days, I devote a whole new chapter to the 16 most common Men’s Deadly Dating Patterns based on personality types.
That’s why dating and relationships can be so confusing and frustrating.
When I was a practicing therapist working with women moving on from a relationship and getting ready to date again, I would encourage them to be a little less available than they had been in their last relationship.
Women, inevitably, would say to me, "I don't want to play games.